Very insightful and well written. I laughed a bit reading the wristcel part due to the fact that I have unusually small wrists myself and it's a tiny insecurity. I've actually had an okay amount of opportunity that I never took advantage of probably because I have a problem of worrying about my perceived imperfections.
However, what's weird is that I'm actually a good looking dude but what I do KNOW is that I'm boring that's what I've been told by two women who wanted to fuck me. I'm at home all day trying to day trade my way to success (which I'm failing miserably). My life feels like an engine that fails to get the ignition going so then I just get stuck in a doom loop.
If I had to describe it in a couple of bullet points, it's something like:
-Failing to do the things that make you more fuckable (i.e. Money, Muscles, Game) and...
-Not to consistently placing yourself in enough social settings while also failing to convert opportunities into results.
I'm 30 years old and a virgin. I haven't "spiritually" given up, but I've practically given up. I retain an illegitimate premonition that it will just "happen" one day. Intellectually I know that possibility is as close to zero as to be practically indistinguishable.
I've never been diagnosed as autistic, but I'm content to ignore that pink elephant.
What fits,
I have small wrists. I've never been a big drinker. I spent too much time alone online in my younger years.
What doesn't fit.
I'm well inside the top 10% of income for my area. I don't live at home. I'm not religious. I'm above average intelligence, but not that much. Within a standard deviation, certainly not enough to matter.
Based on the data I'm likely to be some sort of high functioning austimo and need to come to terms with that.
Ohhh I might have become a wizard if I wouldn’t have visited hookers. I feel like I am too choosy. I lately didn’t visit them out of greed and probably possible bad experiences. I don’t feel bad about it though I don’t like a lot of women too. I think often you could date her but then I think she might be annoying demanding unfriendly. So fuck it hhhhh. Some women I genuinely like but only know online
Great post, as a wizard myself I was always curious to find out why this is the case and your writings shed light on the ultimate reasons for this. Greetings
I was 29 when I lost it, so almost a wizard. I'll call myself a sorcerer in a joke that will simultaneously reveal my age and make an entirely appropriate cultural reference.
So why did I become a sorcerer? Well, I'll go with the high IQ thing. I am probably on the spectrum. I wasn't obese at the time. Do have kind of small wrists. Income was average but with the potential to get much higher (which later happened--I'll be vague, this is the internet). I didn't drink much. I did like the online a little too much, but it was mostly dumb political arguments--I didn't get into porn, because I didn't want someone outside of me to control my sexuality (yes, really); instead I wrote my own dirty stuff.
Honestly, I didn't try. I was in academia for a long time, which made asking anyone out a high harassment risk, and I had absorbed a lot of second- and third-wave feminism that made me think male desire and being assertive was evil. I also figured "well, women don't like nerd stuff, and I have to make myself into this extroverted, athletic person, and stop doing the things I like, so why bother?"
When I finally wanted to start dating, I read some of the early PUA stuff (think pre-Nazi Roissy/Heartiste) and dialed it down by about 75%. It eventually worked, and my sorcery went away. Heck, even did the poly thing for a while until I realized having three girlfriends was even more annoying than having one.
I can't say I'm all that much happier to be honest. Sex isn't that much fun (probably because I can't pull anyone I'm attracted to, but that's on me--anyway at this age it's not going to happen), and eventually they all want to get married, which leads to either breaking their hearts or entering into a relationship where she can terminate at any time and gain a claim on your future earnings. I'm likely to die alone, but I don't think it counts as wizardry if you already *had* sex.
I think Merlindom is produced from the reaction of certain psychophysiological traits with the broader socioeconomic structure. To become a wizard, you have to not only have traits women don’t like (autism, obesity) but be humiliated economically (live at home*, make under 50k) and, crucially, have certain traits that make you unwilling to settle (high IQ, egoism (not depicted)). American culture enhances or creates this intransigent group via invisible warfare against the uglies and rugged individualism that tells them anyone can make it.
For most of the bottom quintile, there’s an evolutionary drive that makes them subconsciously willing to settle for someone “in their league”. You can see the unholy alliance between loser guys and ugly-to-mid women in your local downtown. Their relationships are lower quality but they do exist.
Wizards’ claims of oppression can never be refuted because to acknowledge the legitimacy of their grievance the 95 IQ mouth-breather would have to acknowledge broader sociosexual dynamics that would annihilate their psychological safety cocoon.
*Living at home is also a structural impediment to having sex but that would undermine my argument so I’m going to ignore it
For me, the reasons are multifaceted. It's mostly my autism which is to blame, but it's also because I'm disgusted by genitalia and bodily functions.
Very insightful and well written. I laughed a bit reading the wristcel part due to the fact that I have unusually small wrists myself and it's a tiny insecurity. I've actually had an okay amount of opportunity that I never took advantage of probably because I have a problem of worrying about my perceived imperfections.
However, what's weird is that I'm actually a good looking dude but what I do KNOW is that I'm boring that's what I've been told by two women who wanted to fuck me. I'm at home all day trying to day trade my way to success (which I'm failing miserably). My life feels like an engine that fails to get the ignition going so then I just get stuck in a doom loop.
If I had to describe it in a couple of bullet points, it's something like:
-Failing to do the things that make you more fuckable (i.e. Money, Muscles, Game) and...
-Not to consistently placing yourself in enough social settings while also failing to convert opportunities into results.
Basically me i just do not do daytraiding but retail investment
I'm 30 years old and a virgin. I haven't "spiritually" given up, but I've practically given up. I retain an illegitimate premonition that it will just "happen" one day. Intellectually I know that possibility is as close to zero as to be practically indistinguishable.
I've never been diagnosed as autistic, but I'm content to ignore that pink elephant.
What fits,
I have small wrists. I've never been a big drinker. I spent too much time alone online in my younger years.
What doesn't fit.
I'm well inside the top 10% of income for my area. I don't live at home. I'm not religious. I'm above average intelligence, but not that much. Within a standard deviation, certainly not enough to matter.
Based on the data I'm likely to be some sort of high functioning austimo and need to come to terms with that.
Ohhh I might have become a wizard if I wouldn’t have visited hookers. I feel like I am too choosy. I lately didn’t visit them out of greed and probably possible bad experiences. I don’t feel bad about it though I don’t like a lot of women too. I think often you could date her but then I think she might be annoying demanding unfriendly. So fuck it hhhhh. Some women I genuinely like but only know online
Great post, as a wizard myself I was always curious to find out why this is the case and your writings shed light on the ultimate reasons for this. Greetings
Thanks for giving me the data to realise I'm a freak, death looks more appealing every day
I am a wizard. I have started to write it down, still a work in progress, and there's a lot more to be said.
https://substack.com/home/post/p-154743157
Definitely some stuff in there that resonated with me. Would be keen to hear more.
Do you use R and R Studio?
I was 29 when I lost it, so almost a wizard. I'll call myself a sorcerer in a joke that will simultaneously reveal my age and make an entirely appropriate cultural reference.
So why did I become a sorcerer? Well, I'll go with the high IQ thing. I am probably on the spectrum. I wasn't obese at the time. Do have kind of small wrists. Income was average but with the potential to get much higher (which later happened--I'll be vague, this is the internet). I didn't drink much. I did like the online a little too much, but it was mostly dumb political arguments--I didn't get into porn, because I didn't want someone outside of me to control my sexuality (yes, really); instead I wrote my own dirty stuff.
Honestly, I didn't try. I was in academia for a long time, which made asking anyone out a high harassment risk, and I had absorbed a lot of second- and third-wave feminism that made me think male desire and being assertive was evil. I also figured "well, women don't like nerd stuff, and I have to make myself into this extroverted, athletic person, and stop doing the things I like, so why bother?"
When I finally wanted to start dating, I read some of the early PUA stuff (think pre-Nazi Roissy/Heartiste) and dialed it down by about 75%. It eventually worked, and my sorcery went away. Heck, even did the poly thing for a while until I realized having three girlfriends was even more annoying than having one.
I can't say I'm all that much happier to be honest. Sex isn't that much fun (probably because I can't pull anyone I'm attracted to, but that's on me--anyway at this age it's not going to happen), and eventually they all want to get married, which leads to either breaking their hearts or entering into a relationship where she can terminate at any time and gain a claim on your future earnings. I'm likely to die alone, but I don't think it counts as wizardry if you already *had* sex.
There are worse things than being a wizard.
it's so over
I think Merlindom is produced from the reaction of certain psychophysiological traits with the broader socioeconomic structure. To become a wizard, you have to not only have traits women don’t like (autism, obesity) but be humiliated economically (live at home*, make under 50k) and, crucially, have certain traits that make you unwilling to settle (high IQ, egoism (not depicted)). American culture enhances or creates this intransigent group via invisible warfare against the uglies and rugged individualism that tells them anyone can make it.
For most of the bottom quintile, there’s an evolutionary drive that makes them subconsciously willing to settle for someone “in their league”. You can see the unholy alliance between loser guys and ugly-to-mid women in your local downtown. Their relationships are lower quality but they do exist.
Wizards’ claims of oppression can never be refuted because to acknowledge the legitimacy of their grievance the 95 IQ mouth-breather would have to acknowledge broader sociosexual dynamics that would annihilate their psychological safety cocoon.
*Living at home is also a structural impediment to having sex but that would undermine my argument so I’m going to ignore it